Merry Christmas! What a time of the year. I notice that there is so much joy and sorrow. I feel it on my family from all sides, both moms and my dads.

You see, the holidays are meant for family. And sometimes not all of the family is there. And I think that’s what weighs a lot of people down. I know it does for me. When my birth mom died, I felt it. It was different. There wasn’t a party with my grandparents, siblings, uncle, and honorary uncles. It all ended when my mom took her last breath. But I had my daddy. And that was always consistent. It was always my daddy, my twin and I. But then my dad passed away. When he died, I never wanted to celebrate Christmas or Thanksgiving ever again. I was sad and mean every year. When I got married, I started to find the joy in that again. After my divorce I felt myself getting to the point where I hated it again. But I said NO MORE! I knew that God was still good even when my life wasn’t. I knew He was still for me.

Then the year after my divorce, my brother died. And the holidays haven’t been the same since. My birthday is 11 days before Christmas. There was no 3 am “happy birthday” song voice mail. My mom, my sister, and my nieces and nephews were so heavy. This year it’s still heavy. My gramma is missing my birth mom. Things are just sad.

I was thinking this week about the sadness. But God reminded me that there is still joy and reasons to smile. It doesn’t take a way to things that hurt, but it should be remembered. The smiles and the love. It’s still good. The snow is still beautiful. The memories cannot be taken away, and those are still good. The new family coming together with the old is wonderful.

Christmas is about celebrating Jesus’ birth. Regardless of religious scrooges, it is the time we set aside to sing Him happy birthday. When Jesus came into this world He brought with Him peace, hope, redemption, restoration, forgiveness. In Isaiah 9:6-7 it says “For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. Of the greatness of His government and peace there will be no end.” What a verse!

That verse to me is what I am holding onto this season. It is what I pray over my friends and family, and it’s what I hope for you to remember. Jesus is the Prince of Peace beyond all understanding and there is no end to that supernatural peace. Jesus was born FOR us. And He is still for us to this day. He listens to us when we are broken hearted and if we allow it, He will give us peace in our pain.


I am praying for those of you that are feeling how my own family is feeling. I am praying for those who are missing people. I know this time of year makes it sting extra, but I truly believe that God will bring you comfort (how cool is He? Working for US on HIS birthday). I am praying for joy, peace, and hope this holiday season for you.


Merry Christmas from my home to yours! And happy birthday, to the best thing the world ever received, Jesus the Messiah.